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If your dad is abusing your mom he should hate noone, but himself. Maybe it will make him realize what he is doing wrong. It may have needed to happen so that he could see what he’s doing is wrong. Does he abuse you?

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Anonymous wrote:
If your dad is abusing your mom he should hate noone, but himself. Maybe it will make him realize what he is doing wrong. It may have needed to happen so that he could see what he’s doing is wrong. Does he abuse you?

100% agree..you done a good think..you done it to hel your mother..
And does it abuse you aswell??
If he does TALK..

He crossed the line, not you! I’m sorry you are in this and hope he gets the help he needs. Be safe and as living4you say’s….talk:)

Max wrote:
He crossed the line, not you! I’m sorry you are in this and hope he gets the help he needs. Be safe and as living4you say’s….talk:)

:)
Thanks max.
Yes its better you talk and he will get the help he needs..beacuse abused your mother is not a good think dear friend..
Goodluck..
Takecare

Talk to your Mom about how you don’t feel safe.

I think that was actually really brave. He needs to either go to jail, or stop abusing her, and if hes abusing you too you need to call social services. No matter what he thinks, or what anyone has done, it does not give him the right to use them as a punching bag.
Hopefully this will be the wake up call he needs.

Keep the phone in your room close to you.

Unless he is sick or lost his mind, he may follow the directions he’ll be given. The police will warn him very strongly and so will your mom. He may apologize and if so smile, hug and let him work it out.
If not, he’ll be dealing with other issues. It should be better:)

Dont worry police they will talk to him..and they will warn him..
You done a good thing that you call the police..
You care about your mum and about your self..she didnt have to Mad about you you dont a good thing..you are trying to help him and her as well.

grippinglin wrote:
hes not good at confronting either… i feel like im going to get my headbusted open by him what should i do when he comes back? i have a note on the door and stuff but i dont think that’ll help and mom thinks i did a bad thing cop thinks i did a good thing i dont know im confused..

Sounds like your mom just wants to protect him, even though hes doing wrong.

My mom use to abuse my dad and after the police talked to her she would have usually have calmed down by the time she was around us again.

Did you watch the video link I sent you? Your mom is not thinking straight right now. She’s scared and needs support too:) It’s not you job to decide right and wrong, the police will:)

How old are you?

Anonymous wrote:
My mom use to abuse my dad and after the police talked to her she would have usually have calmed down by the time she was around us again.

I..see..
She was abused him aswell..
So it can that police talk to him and then it will stop every abuse..

you did the right thing by helping your mam. I dont know what to suggest. but if he ever hurts you then you have to tell the police. could you talk to your mam about it? maybe if you are so scared, you could tell the police that you are scared that he may hurt you.

Unless he’s stupid…..he won’t:) Plus, there will be a time an your mom will step up. If not, save her and save yourself…call…talk:)

kolbeaid wrote:
You did the right thing. There is something wrong with your father’s behavior
and he needs professional help. You did the right thing, your heart and mind
were telling you it was the right thing to do. Great that you acted and helped your mom before it is too late. Your dad hopefully will get help from
a doctor with his anger issues, if he cannot , then you must understand that
there is something wrong with his thinking and rational, and you must
protect yourself and your mom.

10000% agree..

grippinglin wrote:

kolbeaid wrote:
You did the right thing. There is something wrong with your father’s behavior
and he needs professional help. You did the right thing, your heart and mind
were telling you it was the right thing to do. Great that you acted and helped your mom before it is too late. Your dad hopefully will get help from
a doctor with his anger issues, if he cannot , then you must understand that
there is something wrong with his thinking and rational, and you must
protect yourself and your mom.

i know but what should i do now, just wait and see what he does?

Wait. And see how is going to reject him self. But if he tries to do that again…
CALL AS FAST AS YOU CAN!!

i..se..
but you can go out??
Go to the police station..and talk to them if anything wrong happend..

I always hid in my closet and prayed. I knew that I couldn’t do anything if my mom did abuse me, all I had was GOD to look after me. So I would just ask that he would keep me safe. I’m still here so he must of answered my prayers.

=/ yes you could do something if your mother come to abuse you..
you have to talk…how old are you??

Anonymous wrote:
I always hid in my closet and prayed. I knew that I couldn’t do anything if my mom did abuse me, all I had was GOD to look after me. So I would just ask that he would keep me safe. I’m still here so he must of answered my prayers.

and how olod are you?

Hey sweety, I’m a dad and my friends have gone through something like this. Come to think of it, my brother did too. They need to understand you will be strong and not tolerate this. I’m sorry for hearing you have to play the role of the adult, but you did a GOOD thing:)
Can you stay at a relative or friends place?

grippinglin wrote:

grippinglin wrote:

ℓινιηg4уσυ wrote:
=/ yes you could do something if your mother come to abuse you..
you have to talk…how old are you??

me?

well too be honest im only 12..

Your 12…but you Still done a good think that you call to the police.

grippinglin wrote:
i hate my life…

you dont have to..

grippinglin wrote:
god i shoulda never called the cops

you done a good thing called cops..if you did not it can be much wrong..

Honey, don’t be so scared. You are going to be okay. You are so young and precious, it’s normal to feel like you hate your life right now because of what you are going through. This time will past sooner than you think.

Anonymous wrote:
Honey, don’t be so scared. You are going to be okay. You are so young and precious, it’s normal to feel like you hate your life right now because of what you are going through. This time will past sooner than you think.

Yep Agreeee..
and dont worry you done a good thing

They don’t hate you…they hate that they got caught.
It’s not hate…it looks like it…it’s fear and sadness!
Have you even seen a normal person smile when they got caught doing something bad….no!
When do they get home?

Has he hit you before?

Has he hit your mom?

Be brave and get someone to be there with you. They may even send someone with them.

his with you dont worry..he have been with you12years and going to stay with you..

Do you believe in GOD?

Anonymous wrote:
Do you believe in GOD?

YES! I DO

Let me word it this way…show me a man who hits women and ignores police and I’ll show you an animal that belongs in jail. Show me a man that would harm a 12 year old and I’ll show you a strong young woman that will put him in jail.
Your mother needs you to be strong:)

It says in the bible “Behold, I have given you the authority to tread over serpents & scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy, and NOTHING can harm you.” Keep your faith in GOD and remember that he will keep you safe if you ask him to. Just try to keep your focus on knowing everythings going to be okay.

btw the police can tell you when he’s getting out.

grippinglin wrote:

Max wrote:
Let me word it this way…show me a man who hits women and ignores police and I’ll show you an animal that belongs in jail. Show me a man that would harm a 12 year old and I’ll show you a strong young woman that will put him in jail.
Your mother needs you to be strong:)

heh… but what if he dosnt… then what and i dont have a phone no more

You’re 12, you have very fast feet:)

If he acts like he is going to do something, yes I would run.

Also, this maybe your first time..not the police’s! They do this everyday, hundreds of times and they can counsel you, tell them your age:)

Why are you alone?

Call them now, go use a pay phone or neighbors if it’s safe. Tell them you are frighten.

I have to leave for work sweety, I check in later:) There are lots of people here that will help:)

:)

dw, u did nothing wrong u were only doing the right thing. Ur dad will and needs to understnd and realise wot he did was wrong. After all ur only a kid (right?) u shouldnt have to put up with that **** and neither should ur mom. Ur the innocent one, and ur dad wont hate u, he might be angry for a while, but he can never hate u remember, even if it seems like it.
Hopefully calling the police has helped make ur dad realise etc.

Uzma_101 wrote:
dw, u did nothing wrong u were only doing the right thing. Ur dad will and needs to understnd and realise wot he did was wrong. After all ur only a kid (right?) u shouldnt have to put up with that **** and neither should ur mom. Ur the innocent one, and ur dad wont hate u, he might be angry for a while, but he can never hate u remember, even if it seems like it.
Hopefully calling the police has helped make ur dad realise etc.

Good one :)

(Y) does he or as he ever abused u? anyway, if he can to ur mum he can to u too, its just trying to keep urself safe. Its better for urself to live away from ur dad than putting up with that crap all the time, that is just worser for u and trust it will take u know where.

grippinglin wrote:
mom says how is he going to forgive me and or my mom do i run away?

Might be a good idea for you and mom to try and get away